Monday, July 28, 2008

Sad weekend…

The past weekend was not a pleasant one for me…had a fight with hubby on Friday morning and there goes the spoilt weekend…

There’s this Chinese saying which goes “jia-jia-you-ben-nan-nian-de-jing”, which simply means every family has its own issues or problems. This sounds so real to me now…why?

When I wrote about S in my previous post, this phrase came to my mind. It’s just like from the outer layer or surface, I see that she has a perfect happy family life, until I got to hear her “true” stories on family issues & family problems with the violent husband, I realized things are so different from what I’ve imagined. Yeah, her husband bought her a brand new Honda CRV as a gift and all, but so what?

Recently too, when I spoke to another good friend R, whom despite having a hubby few years younger than her, stays in big 2-1/2-stories link-house in Sunway SPK. So I always thought they are doing well and all, but apparently not really. She was told by her hubby to stay at work no matter how stress is her job coz the family needs the income. Now that I know why I can practically see her admiring eyes when she heard me saying one of my hubby’s dreams is to make me a happy housewife and that he always tell me quit the job if it’s too stressful for me…

See…to both S & R, they said I have a perfect husband, who’s family oriented, doing well in his career, lovely & all, but that’s just the surface which they are aware of. Every family or relationship has its own problems & issues, it’s just so true. Yeah, my hubby loves the family, he will cook dinner for us, prepare breakfast for me, help with housework, etc…but have I not tried my best to be a good wife for him too?

Whatever it is, I don’t think I’ve done something wrong to deserve the shouting & scolding from him for 10 mins where I just kept quiet. I know if I were to fight back & argue with him, it’s gonna be no ending to this….He apologized for the shouting after that, but I was already really upset. It was just a small thing (at least to me), but he reacted as though it’s such a huge issue, which really surprised me. Anyhow, I’m so heavily pregnant, plus I never get to sleep well at night for past few months, I thought he could be more loving & caring than this…

I refused to speak to him throughout the weekend. I took my son out all day from early morning to late evening on Sat since he has his personal agenda for morning half Sat. It was really exhausting for me though…handling my boy all alone with my huge tummy…

Well I don’t even know when will I be comfortable to speak to him again, maybe will have to pray harder for God to help me forgive & forget…

6 comments:

Daniel said...

tis thing happens 2 everyone of us, always,, but dun b 2 upset bcos it'll affect ur lil' baby inside. Like u say pray to got to help u forgive n forget

Dio Brando said...

Life is never a bed of roses... I say that you should give him the cold shoulder for a while, let him make the first move to apologise to u.

Natasha said...

totally agree that everyone has their own issues. we always think the grass is greener on the other side and fail to appreciate what we have.
i say since u're heavily pregnant, don't waste time fighting with him, be happy for the baby! and move on. i'm sure you both still love each other very much and this will get past.

cbenc12 said...

Hi Shar, I hope u will be ok wif ur hubby soon! need to give and take in every relationship.. =) take care of ur little baby and ur health too!

Sunshine said...

hey dear, didnt drop by for a really long time. everything ok already?

sharlydia said...

daniel - thx...infact i know every single couple will argue & quarrel, but this time round, for the matter he scolded me on, I was just caught by surprise...

dio - infact he did appologize on the same day itself, but to me, damnage has been done!
anyway, we are ok now, after giving him that cold shoulder for 1 whole week, he showed love with action throughout the week, and sincerely appologized again over the weekend, hehe...

natasha - infact i did tell myself to just concentrate on the baby, but it's easier said than done...I guess i just love him so soooo much, that's y his shouting has hurt me badly...

cbenc12 - thx dear! Despite of the cold shoulder, he showed love with action throughout the week, and sincerely appologized again over the weekend, so we are ok now...

sunshine - thx for coming back! things are alright, no worries...